Fun for her, not for you

It takes a very special kind of woman to go out with you and have a great time while you are having a really shitty night.

I recently dated a woman like that. Her name was Lana. We went out to a bar one night, and Lana instantly started flirting with the bartender. Then she started chatting with all the other guys at the bar. One of the guys was a generic barfly in flip-flops who decided he would try to put the moves on Lana.

Now, I have no claim over Lana. She is free to talk to whoever she wants. And I know that the flip-flop guy is no real threat -- no matter what he says or does, Lana is going home with me. But I am kind of old-fashioned in that I feel if you agree to go to somewhere with someone, you should actually spend time with the person you came with.

A lot of women these days don't seem to feel that way. They feel they can ignore the guy they came with. They treat you like home base. They flutter around the room, flirting with other guys, dancing with other guys, always returning to you, always secure in the knowledge that they are leaving with you. And not really caring whether you have a good time or not.

At the end of the night, they will be drunk and deleriously happy, and then they will ask if you had a good time or not. You will answer "Yes," because you don't want to spoil their great mood. I usually try to avoid dating women like this, but from time to time, you do get stuck going out with them, and it is never fun.

I think it is not too much to ask for a girl to pay attention to the guy who paid for the entire evening and drove her there and back. I guess I am just old-fashioned that way.